My boss recently got offered a job at a better university, and wants to move the whole lab there. But I don’t really want to move. I am not looking forward to feeling the isolation I know I would feel when completely uprooting. People like to say that ‘I’ll make new friends and branch out’, but I’m very uncomfortable with new people, so I don’t really see that happening. The fact that I have any friends is somewhat of a miracle, but that’s besides the point.
It’s not just the lack of friends I would have there. I just moved closer to this job so that I can work more efficiently. And as everyone knows, moving is a pain in the ass. So to have to move again in so short a time, I feel, is somewhat unfair. I know the neighborhoods around where I live and know where to get a cheaper place to live. However, at the new location, everything is so expensive, I almost can’t afford to live, even if I share with roommates.
Plus, I don’t even really like my boss. As a boss, he’s never really around and he is obsessed with publishing in high impact journals. So much so that I don’t think I’ll ever publish anything since he wants so many extra experiments. I couldn’t care less where I publish my work just as long as I have a publication to show my work. ‘publish or perish’ is a real concern for me. He also has talked down to me multiple times, implying I’m incompetent. Even if he apologizes, I don’t think he’s sincere. Anyway, I don’t know what to do. If I don’t follow, I’m out of a job. Some people have mentioned that the better university would look better on my CV and would make it easier to find a job in the future. But I’m not sure if it’s worth it. Any advice?